Virgin Lips Movement

Posted on May 7, 2009


Virgin Lips Movement – ever heard of it? While it has gained worldwide media attention and scorn, I recently heard the actual phraseology for the first time in an article by Dr. Albert Mohler.  The movement, which seems to be a more hard-core version of the Abstinence Pledges of the 1980s and 1990s, seeks to encourage young people to save their first kiss (and any physical involvement) for their future husband or wife.  I think, if correctly applied, this is a better goal than technical virginity, which seemed to argue that you’re good as long as you haven’t “gone all the way.”  After all, there is no category for technical virginity in the Bible – it’s just sexual immorality or holiness (1 Thess 4).

Having watched a good friend of mine put this into practice with his wife, I admired his restraint and passion for purity in this area.  Why could this strategy potentially work better than what’s been put forward in the past?  Because, as we always teach our teenagers, “where your draw your boundaries defines your arena of temptation.” Like anything else, however, it should be acknowledged that we are sinners and no strategy is strong enough to deter that impulse.  On the other hand, we do need to think and pray hard about how to develop a winning strategy for putting our kids in a position to succeed (i.e. making it to marriage with purity). As they say, no strategy is a losing strategy.  What do you think? How can parents and those working with young people in the church help provide an ideal context for success in the area of sexuality and relationships?

For more resources, see Highview’s Dating Booklet in my “Ministry Resources” section.

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