joshua harris reflects back

Posted on February 16, 2009


While I have read many books in the last decade on marriage, dating, and sexuality, there have been few that had the impact on me that Joshua Harris‘ “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” did when I first read it as a teenager.  Although I would certainly not subscribe to or endorse everything that Harris promotes, this book helped reshape my vision of dating and marriage during a critical time in my life.

That’s why I thought it was interesting that Harris recently posted a series of messages he gave at Covenant Life on “What I’ve Learned Since I Kissed Dating Goodbye.”  These messages were given to clear up misconceptions and misapplications of what he originally wrote.  Harris writes:

I still stand by the message of that book that premature, short-term romantic attachments can be a big distraction from serving God–especially for teenagers. But in the years since I’ve also seen that a legalistic application of these ideas can be unhelpful, too. One of my main concerns in my church or any other church is that there be no disunity among Christians over issues of dating and courtship. We need to learn to hold our own convictions on this matter with charity. Most importantly we need to make sure that our convictions are shaped by scripture–not culture, church culture or my books.

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